I have already seen a million Mother’s Day blogs, but why not add another?! Especially since this my first Mother’s Day and for many of you it will be your first! It’s really strange for me in fact. Sometimes I still look at my husband and say, “we have a human.” This tiny human has changed our lives dramatically (duh). The months leading up to this Mother’s Day have been filled with joy, laughter, and exhaustion.
I will never forget the day I became a mother. So many emotions swished through my body all at once. You can read more about his journey here. He’s 9 months old and on the move now! I couldn’t be more proud! A lot of my friends are just now getting pregnant, planning out their pregnancy, or are just a few months away. There is really nothing anyone can say or do to prepare you to welcome a new one in this world. Honestly, there is never a perfect time either. It’s a scary feeling, the unknown. Every mom’s journey is different, but just know you are not alone. Since having my babe, I think I have called my mom a million and one times over the tiniest things. Just another reason why my mom is awesome. I could only hope I do as great as she does.
Being a mom is amazing. I love it so much, definitely my greatest adventure. I now know what my parents were talking about when they said they worry all of the time. I don’t stop worrying and I can’t imagine how my mom did it with three daughters, haha! Like many of you out there, you may have a little one on your hands. Instead of getting flowers for the day, there might be other helpful items to receive on Mother’s Day to up your game as a mom! Not that you need to up your game, but these items will just be helpful ;-).
So make bath time easier with a cool bathtub or give that mom an energy boost with coffee! I know some of these aren’t the most traditional Mother’s Day gifts. Get out of the picture frame funk and do something different! Whatever you do, don’t leave your mom, wife, grandma, or whoever out this Sunday!
In honor of graduation, I needed to make a College post! I know this is in left field compared to my other posts! I hope I don’t offend anyone in this post, but apart of blogging is being able to discuss difficult topics. I recently was around a group of people and we were talking about what happened to an individual after he had skipped around a few colleges… One person in this group made a remark about how he thinks he’s at Indiana University Kokomo (a community school). I wouldn’t have thought anything about it, but it was the way he said it… with a smirky tongue. The kind of way you say something without really saying it.
I was immediately offended, but I bite my tongue like I have many times before on this topic. See, I also graduated from this same school, did I become some worm under a rock? No. To this person, and to many others, these schools will never be good enough. I NEED to tell all of my community school peeps one thing, be proud.
Be proud that your parents aren’t paying your way through college. There are A TON of people who get help from their families. Which is seriously awesome. However, there are A TON who don’t. Some people may think these people are at a disadvantage. I look at it a little differently. Growing up nothing was ever handed to me, thankfully. My parents are awesome and didn’t want it that way. At the time I didn’t understand it, they could have given us whatever. Instead, they taught us work ethic and to truly be humble in every aspect of life. Honestly, I would feel really weird if they did pay my way through college. Thanks, but no thanks…anyway, Not only did you go through college and get a degree, you did it on your own dime.
Be proud you went to school full time while also working. Many students also work part time or full time to make their way through it all. As someone who went through those times working all those years. I know it can be difficult.
Be proud that you won’t have to spend your entire life paying back loans. One thing about community college is that it’s not the most expensive option. I know someone who got a scholarship and instead of going to a larger college, she went to her community college and got her bachelor’s degree paid for. Also, if you have family in the area you can save money on housing too.
Be proud that you can go on into this world and make big bucks like the rest of them! I know many who have.
Be proud that you made it through your hardship and still got your degree! What a lot of people don’t realize is that there are so many people who truly struggle. These schools help those individuals succeed and meet their goals to make a better life for themselves and their families.
Don’t get me wrong, going to a large university or college is an amazing thing also! I know that you also have put in many sleepless nights, hard working hours, and come across struggles as well. I KNOW that some of you also worked and are paying your own way. You should also be proud! My husband, friends, and family have attended amazing schools. I’m so proud of them. I do know that they are aware enough in this world to understand that successful people also comes from community college as well. I also know that some students hide the fact that they do go to a community college or never talk about it because people can be cruel about it. So to those who are not so aware, before you bash, belittle, or make fun of someone for going to a community college think of all the reasons why they went there in the first place and remember that they are only human.
Having a break is a very important time for anyone. My husband works from sun up to sun down and sometimes doesn’t even get to kiss our sweet boy goodnight. Which also means that I’m working around the clock too. I can hear some of you anti stay at home moms now-“omg, staying at home with your son isn’t a job, “she has it so easy.” While I’m blessed to be able to stay home, I think I also deserve a break. When my husband is home, I do get a few moments of relief. Sometimes it only lasts seconds. Those few times a week I cherish though. The time that I write I cherish. The time I get to work out I cherish. The time I spend in the shower, I cherish. I even go sit on the toilet just to sit there for long periods of time pretending to poop (omg I just said poop ?-come on people, don’t act like you don’t do that too). These times “away” I cherish.
I can hear some of you thinking, “wow, she really must not like her family.” No, that’s not it at all. I LOVE them so much it hurts. I’m a better mom, a better wife, a better human being when I can get away for a few minutes and just be alone. I need that time to rejuvenate, relax, and let go of all things. If I’m not able to do these things, then I turn into a crazy person and all fury comes down on my husband, my dog, and lack as a mother.
When I mean crazy, I mean super insane. Everything my dog does turns into the worst possible things. The way he chews his bones and leaves a mess on the floor, the way he grabs Easton’s toy wanting to be chased around the house with it, and the way he uncontrollably licks Easton’s face. Yes, sometimes it’s cute and precious, but my lord Rudy (our dog) you don’t need to lick his face off.
Feel bad for my poor husband when he gets to come home to crazy me. He will eat his dinner and then I can’t help but ask if he was born in a barn because of his loud ass chewing and chomping. Then I get upset if he can’t watch Easton for more than two seconds so I can just be. Once, I just looked at him and asked him if he could just stop talking. I’m telling you people, having a break is important.
Now you all have some sort of idea what happens if I don’t. I’m a nicer all around person once I have that moment to myself. I can come back and be a better mom, wife, and human being. I think that goes for everyone though. It’s important to have me time. Especially if you have a crazy schedule, if you’re a mom with many little ones, or if you own your own business. Not only will this me time rejuvenate you, it will make you better at whatever you do and ultimately be a better person. Think about the other people in your life as well, like family and friends. Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away with endeavors that you’re into and soon enough those close to you get used to the idea of you not being around. Take that break that enables you to see your family and friends. Those relationships are important to your mental health as well.
Here are some things you can do for your break to really relax:
No! Dandelions aren’t beautiful you crazies! We spray our yards for them so it looks crisp and lusciously green. Those damn dandelions. We see them down the street at a nearby house. As we walk by that certain house with all of their dandelions, it’s easy to think that they don’t take care of their yard or that they just don’t care. Who am I kidding, we have a couple too. Then I see me son…his eyes and curious fingers don’t go for the crisp green grass. No, they go for the gold dandelion.
His pure innocence takes ahold of me and really gives me a different outlook. We see everything so ugly. It’s hard not to in this world. To him, everything is beautiful and magical. It could be a gold dandelion, an older dandelion (the kind you blow in the wind), our dog’s smelly fur, the creases in our hand me down furniture, the wrinkles in my mom’s smile, or the gray hair on my dad’s face. EVERYTHING to him is beautiful.
Today, it’s easy to get caught up in the craziness of our world. You get on whatever social media account and see the worst. It’s sad really. We are more prone to judge others because of it. We scroll down our feeds just to see what juicy information we can find. It’s not our faults. We can’t turn the Television on without seeing something insane.
I’m sad that I am raising my son in a world with such violence and hate towards each other. The only thing I can do is raise him to treat others with respect. One thing that really bothers me are those crazy, hot head drivers. Sorry person honking behind me, I will turn when there aren’t cars in my path. Or the person who gets angry with the poor handicap people driving. They are doing their best. We are all doing our best. Don’t give people a hard time at life. They are doing the best they can. Give them support instead if you think they need it. You don’t walk in their shoes. You don’t know what their life is like. So instead of being rude. Be Kind. Offer a smile, a hand, or nice words. Be Kind.
So maybe dandelions are beautiful. You just need to look at them from a different point of view ;-).
So this weekend I made healthy banana pancakes! One thing I have found out about my fit journey is that I cook more now than I ever did before, haha! My poor husband. Another thing that I’ve noticed when I cook is the HUGE mess I make. I could never own my own bakery, I would come home and look like a ghost with flour all over me. Honestly, I’m messy with most things. I should change my blog to the “messy mom.” Hmmmm .
Anyway, I started out with two bananas. I put them in a bowl and smushed them real good until smooth!
After they are smooth (note, they are not fully smooth in that pic ^). Add two eggs.
At this point you may use a whisk to mix the ingredients together. Begin mixing the eggs into the mixture. Then add 1/2 cup of almond milk, 1 cup flour, 1tsp of baking powder, 1/2 tsp of baking soda.
Give it a good mix until smooth! Use 1/4 cup to make your cakes. It should make around 6 pancakes 🙂 I couldn’t believe how good they were! There are actually better ways to make this even more healthy- like instead of flour, baking powder, and baking soda-just use oats! Those are next on my list to try :-). I also can’t believe how awful these pictures are, LOL.
If you remember last week I didn’t do too well with this fit journey. I’m really motivated this week! Stay tuned for my meal prep!